How to give oral sex and Leave Your Man Hungry for More

By Masculine Energyy

Alright, fellas and ladies, let’s keep it 100. We’re diving into a topic that’s as old as desire itself—oral sex. And not just any kind of oral sex. I’m talking about that deep, nasty, intimate kind that’ll have your man questioning his existence—in the best way. This isn’t some dry, vanilla "how-to" list. This is a bold, raw guide for those who want to take their blowjob game from basic to unforgettable. According to a survey that included 1008 U.S. citizens over the age of 18 on their oral sex opinions–the average person participates in oral sex 5 times a month. How many times do you?

Let’s talk about how to give a blowjob that drives him wild, the kind that has him texting you the next day like, “Damn… I’m still thinking about it.”

As Black men, our pleasure often gets ignored or boxed in—hypersexualized by the media or dismissed altogether. That stops here. Whether you're a man loving another man or a woman loving your king, it’s time to get unapologetic about giving head like a damn professional. By the way men should masturbate and do it often there's 21 Benefits of Male Masturbation.

What’s Hot Right Now in Oral Sex

Before we break down how to devour that dick, let’s set the scene. Here’s what’s trending:

• Open Conversations: People are talking more openly about oral sex, especially in LGBTQ+ and Black communities where pleasure is reclaiming center stage. Let's not forget the younger generations and those in long-term relationships.
• New Techniques & Angles: From the Kivin method to using pillows to change the angles and positioning, it’s about pleasure optimization. the Kivin method is oral from behind. Novelty is the name of the game.
• Mutual Pleasure: It isn't just about the receiver. Giving head should turn you on too. Mutual Pleasure has its focus shifting from solely the receiver's pleasure to enjoying the act together. Stimulating other body parts, communicating preferences, and making sucking dick a shared experience.
• Changing Attitudes: People are viewing oral sex in a more positive light. It's less taboo and more accepted as a normal and pleasurable part of sex. Come on.. who doesn't like head?

• Kink Exploration: Praise, eye contact, power play—it’s not just physical, it’s emotional and psychological.
• Better Hygiene & Prep: Clean bodies, trimmed hair, and breath that doesn’t scream "garlic bread." Period.

RelatedTopics: "Awakening Men's Sexual Energy: A Guide to Empowerment"

The Step-by-Step: How to Blow His Mind with Your Mouth 

 Guiding you into Blowjob Bliss

1. Set the Mood Like a Pro

• Talk That Talk: Ask him what he likes. Dirty talk, eye contact, toys—get the playbook before you dive in.
• Create the Vibe: Think candles, low lights, sexy playlist. Make it intimate, not rushed.
• Get Comfortable: Lay him back, kneel on a pillow, or straddle his thighs—whatever puts you in full control.

2. Build the Anticipation

• Foreplay First: Kiss his inner thighs. Tease around his shaft. Trace his abs with your tongue. Don’t rush.
• Eye Contact = Power: Lock eyes occasionally. That intense gaze while your mouth is full? Game-changer.
• Use Your Voice: Moan softly, hum, whisper “you taste so good.” Your sounds will turn him on even more.

3. Mouth Game Strong The Main Event:

Here’s where the magic begins.

• Start Slow and Gentle: Begin with soft kisses and gentle licks around the head and shaft. Flick the frenulum. Light pressure, big effect.
• Use Your Hands: Don't just rely on your mouth. Use your hands to stroke and massage his shaft, creating different sensations. The hand to mouth Combo is nice to use.
• Vary the Pressure: Alternate between light and firm pressure, paying attention to his reactions.
• The Lip Lock: Use your lips to create a tight seal around his shaft, then slide up and down.
• Deep Throat (Optional): If both you and your partner are comfortable with it, you can try deep throating. But remember, it's not necessary for a great blowjob and it should never be forced.
• The Head Game: Pay special attention to the head of his penis. Use your tongue to lick, swirl, and tease it, focusing on the frenulum (the sensitive area on the underside). Be willing to try different transitions with your mouth and tongue.
• The Tease: Stop occasionally and tease him, then resume with greater intensity. Sucking his penis and making eye contact turns a man all the way on.
• Communicate and Adjust: Constantly pay attention to his body language and verbal cues. Ask him what he likes and adjust your technique accordingly.

Add That Extra Spice: Advanced Techniques

Temperature Play: Ice cubes or warm drinks beforehand to make your mouth temperature shift. Sensual shock = heightened pleasure.

Use Toys or Lube: Try a vibrating ring or flavored lube to level up your technique. Make sure it’s safe for oral use.

The Kivin Method: A sideways mouth angle that stimulates the frenulum and glans in a different way. Search it. Try it. Thank me later.

Position Variety:

• Between his legs, head tilted up
• From behind (a.k.a. “oral doggy”)
• Lying on your back, head off the bed

You don’t have to stick to one position—move like sex is a dance.

The Psychology of a Powerful BJ

Here’s where Masculine Energy hits different.

Praise kink is real. Whispering, “You taste so good… I love making you feel like this,” can unlock deeper pleasure.

Submission and Dominance energy—yes, even in oral—creates a powerful exchange. Sometimes giving head is about worship. Other times, it’s about owning the moment. Let your body language say, “I’m in control,” or “You’re my king tonight.”

If he’s into it, try holding eye contact while you gag slightly (again, if that’s safe and consensual). That visual is burned into his mind forever.

This level of oral is emotional, not just physical. It’s connection, it’s lust, it’s power.

Don’t Skip the Aftercare

• Cuddle. Praise. Talk. Don’t just bounce.
• Ask what he loved: "Was that too soft or just right?" Get feedback to elevate your next session.
• Bring water or a towel: Thoughtfulness = sexy.

Real Talk: Common Concerns, Solved (Addressing the Elephant in the room)

“What if I gag?”
The ol' Gag Reflex: Many people worry about gagging. Take it slow, breathe deeply, and focus on relaxing your throat.Take your time. Use your hand for depth and your mouth for focus. You’re not auditioning for a porn shoot. Go at your pace.

“I’m not into swallowing.”
 If you hate the taste of semen aka cum: If you're concerned about the flavor, you can use flavored lubricants or condoms, Hydration helps. Pineapple juice is a classic.Then again Have a towel ready, or let him finish on your chest, thigh, wherever. Talk about it first so everyone’s good.

“I get tired fast.”

Performance Anxiety: It's normal to feel a little nervous. Just remember to relax, communicate, and focus on pleasing your partner.Tag in your hands. Switch positions. Don’t go nonstop—tease, pause, tease again. He’ll love the anticipation.

“He’s uncut—what do I do?”
Treat the foreskin gently. Pull it back a little, and clean under it if needed. It can be super sensitive and erotic.

Related Reads from Masculine Energyy

• The Top Male Sex Fantasies
• Ten of the Best Sex Positions for Deep Pleasure
• The Art of Sexual Communication and Desires
• Stroke Game Strong: A Bold Guide to Male Masturbation & Prostate Play

Final Word: Own It, Love It, Level Up

Devouring dick isn’t just about oral skill—it’s about confidence, connection, and creating an experience that lingers in his body and mind. When you mix technique, energy, and presence, you’re not just giving head—you’re giving pleasure with purpose.

Own your sexy. Own your power. Whether you’re giving or receiving, it’s time to stop treating oral sex like a side dish and start treating it like the main course.

And remember: Pleasure is power. Communication is king. Confidence is everything.

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